Welcome to the Season of Self-Intimacy. I was recently granted the pleasure of joining Ms. Lady of the House for a special virtual Galentine’s affair on Friday, February 6th. The theme: "Romanticizing the Goddess Within" highlights intentional and powerful lifestyle implementation that, when used correctly, promotes total fulfillment. Let's explore!
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Removing Shame + Reclaiming Pleasure - because so many women grew up in households, communities or timelines that shamed them for simply existing; deprogramming is essential. Shame was taught and transmitted through religious misuse, patriarchal programming and men benefitting from women feeling "less than." Plenty of women are unaware of the shame they unconsciously hold, and how it affects their adult life and decision-making. This is a mainstay in the consultations that I have with my clients. The first step in sacred remembrance is the awareness of and then removal of shame consciousness. The truth is, we learn through life experience, not purity. Removal of Shame Affirmation: "Nothing about my body or my desire is wrong. The only thing that was wrong, was me being taught to disconnect from myself."
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Seeing yourself as deserving of Love and Pleasure - because so many women still believe that pleasure is something to be earned. It is my goal to remind women that pleasure, love, abundance and the like are all birthrights. You were literally born, deserving of these things. Many girls grow up, still feeling they need permission from a partner, a holiday or being "chosen" to experience pleasure. There is a liberation that comes with freeing yourself from the need of external permission or validation. You have to believe, in the core of your being, that you are deserving. This also sets a standard for the treatment that you will accept from others. So always treat yourself well, especially when the world isn't watching. Self-Pleasure Affirmation: "I am the change in my life that I have been waiting for. I am open to receiving pleasure without guilt."
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Women are the Carriers of Romance - because why are we outsourcing something that we literally invented? Romance did not originate with men - it originated in women's bodies, minds, care and creative spaces. We are the actual blueprint for it. Naturally, we find ourselves frustrated when we allow men to dictate these roles. Think about it! The women in your life remember birthdays and special dates; curate emotions with connection and beauty; set the tone with candles, flowers and ambiance. Women always show up, ready to pamper and care for you properly. These are not made-up scenarios, this is reality. And this is why a woman's feminine community is a lifeline - her relationship cannot be her only source of romance. She must find it within the relationship she has with herself first and then extend it to her Goddess-friends. We teach men romance, and we should reclaim our roles as the architects.
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Pleasure as more than a sexual innuendo - because pleasure in your everyday life looks life: rest, skincare routines, your favorite music, sensual movement, laughter with loved ones and safety in your body/nervous system. Self-Pleasure, for example, is deep seated self-trust. Many women who think they are blocked sexually, are actually blocked nervously because they never learned to trust themselves. Or they never learned to regulate their nervous systems. They still see pleasure as something to be reserved for intimacy with another person, or for special occasions; not as an everyday necessity. Daily self-pleasure is as simple as : listening to your body, slowing down and not rushing, being curious/playful and not worrying about perfection. Self-Pleasure Affirmation: "Self-Pleasure is the first relationship where I get to be totally honest with myself."
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Romance with "Loved Ones" - because Lady of the House speaks directly to her audience about ways to romance their friends or "loved ones." This concept is revolutionary; as women are now naming the romance that has always existed between us, without the shame or humiliation that men have tried to divide us with. When women romance each other platonically - we heal wounds that men were never meant to heal anyway. That's the magic and the power of the Feminine. Some examples of romancing that we shared were: taking a girlfriend to a nice dinner or play; having a weekly call or meeting to empower each other; or speaking life into each other's bodies and choices. There should be no secret competition against women, no scarcity mindsets (abundance is overflowing) and no shame!
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The final shift is about embodying the woman that you want to be. The question I posed to the Live audience is one I will pose here. Answer it honestly and allow it to unlock the desires within. Finish this sentence, several times if you need to: "I deserve pleasure even when..."
Be sure to follow me (@Sirena_Royale) and Lady (@LadyofTheHouse) on TikTok. Our next scheduled virtual Live Session is Friday, March 20th, 2026. Stay tuned for more details!
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